I hear this WAY too much from other ladies when speaking with them….
I don’t have time
This one really bugs me. We all have the same 24 hours. We all have “busy lives”. You make time for what’s important!
I am a wife to a husband to travels for weeks at a time as well helping him run a hunting lodge, mother of a son who is in a lot of activities and a daughter in college, we have two dogs. I cook at our hunting lodge and do all the shopping for the lodge and oversee kitchen and housekeeping staff. At home I prepare meals, do laundry, clean the house, care for the dogs, take out the trash, help with homework, you name it. I learned to coach, do the mom and housewife thing and still manage to take care of myself and build a successful business.
I had to overcome excuses and find time. It’s about making it a priority. It’s about making ME a priority.
I still struggle with depression/anxiety/ptsd symptoms ever since our son Austin died. So yes there are times I just feel like laying in bed all day under the covers. I don’t feel like work or eating right all of the time – but I do it anyway.
After all of my struggles for those few years after our son’s death and some issues in my marriage and losing my grandmother to cancer… well, I had (have) plenty of excuses but those excuses are the same ones that allowed me to pack on the pounds in the first place.
I get up early almost every day and some days that means getting right to being busy. I get in a workout most days – even if it means taking a walk. I meal prep 2x a week when cooking dinner (I just made extra and chopped fruits and veggies and got snacks ready for a few days at a time). I keep a packet of my protein drink in my purse so if we are at a sports practice or game or on the go and I get hungry I can grab that add it to my water and drink up instead of getting junk food. I read personal development each morning while I have my coffee and the house is quiet.
I know that no matter how busy I get I have to do this every single day. For myself. For my family that needs me to be healthy and live a long and happy life. If I keep doing what I had been doing nothing will ever change. So I MAKE THE TIME.
Am I at the ideal weight yet? NOPE! But I work on myself every single day – no excuses. I work on my business every single day – no excuses.
So tell me again, why it is you don’t have time to make yourself a priority?
There is NO easy way to share this, so here goes…. I QUIT PLEXUS…but hear me out on this one.
I had severed my ambassadorship with Plexus….
I was having an awful experience with the sponsors that I was under when I first joined. My direct sponsor was terminated for being unethical in her business (trying to cross recruit to another company while still earning her Plexus income). Then I reached out for help to my other uplines, Alyssa and Angel (they were Diamonds and I was not so I figured they could help) only to be told I “had to be doing something wrong” or that I was “a negative person” no matter what questions I asked them. I needed and begged for help…. there was NONE to be found – I was simply shunned and left on my own. I started to hate my business because I felt so lonely all of the time. My flame died out.
I hate to admit it but I let other’s people’s negativity into my head and my heart and I quit something I loved to do because of it.
When I had been using Plexus, I had forgotten what it felt like to live every day in pain, exhausted and unhappy. For a while I tried a few other things to try to replace what I had at Plexus (TruVision, Beachbody, Abia Health). But no matter what else was out there, I started to gain weight back (clearly those products were not the best choice for me), my fatigue was returning, I ended up having a surgery due to an inflammation that caused a diverticulum of the urethra and dealing with plantar fasciitis as well. Then I weighed myself and realized I was back to the same weight I had been at on the very first day of my journey back in May 2013!
I learned during my time away from Plexus that the products were helping me in more ways than I had ever realized.
So, I decided to talk to my friend Rachel. She has been with Plexus a long time, pretty much since day 1 of the company, but on a different team that I was before. We chatted on Facebook then on the phone for hours about my physical struggles since leaving and the negativity I had experienced before.
After a very uplifting conversation with her, I immediately re-joined Plexus under her leadership as an Ambassador. I ordered the Ease Capsules to help my plantar fasciitis. I ordered the TriPlex Combo, Block and Edge for my weight issues. I even joined the Plexus 60 Day Trim-Up Contest. I went ALL IN and I am once again a Plexus Ambassador!
The day my stuff arrived I seriously felt like a kid at Christmas (and I may have been stalking my mail carrier waiting for it to get to my door HAHA).
I will NEVER quit Plexus again, that I can promise you!!!
My feet are in no pain. My weight is going down crazy fast. I’m walking normal again, my fatigue is totally gone, my muscles and joints feel rejuvenated. Some days I still ask myself “What the heck was I thinking letting those negative people influence me that way?!?” and feel sad at how far I would have been in the company had I not walked away when I did.
But you know what? I wouldn’t say my time away was totally useless and here is why: I needed a wake up call. I had become comfortable in how great I was feeling and took it for granted. I needed to learn that I cannot let the attitudes of anyone else effect me and my happiness or get in the way of my goals like I had allowed them to do before. I needed time to grow and mature and learn. I am also thankful to be with Rachel instead of in my prior lineage. She is a perfect fit for me – a strong mentor, a Christian, and she and I even share the common bond of being moms of angels.
I also needed a wake up call when it came to feeling like things were not working because of a few customers saying they were having no luck or bad luck using Plexus products. I realized even though it has done wonders for me personally, Plexus is not a miracle and it won’t work unless you put in some effort too. It may not do the things for others that it does for me. I needed to learn that even if a few customers were unhappy that I can never make people happy 100% of the time when it comes to health and weight loss products. It is a tool to use to help you live a better life – and sometimes people think it’s a quick fix and quit before they really get started, and that’s on them – not a reflection of me or the products.
My body was a MESS a month ago. So for me, even these small improvements I have already experienced since returning to Plexus products, feel life altering. Maybe for my next door neighbor, that improvement is undetectable. I only know how I feel and what it has done for me. I also know that I am where I belong – back to a product line that works best for me and a company I love being part of with a leader who has a good heart.
I’m feeling like my soul is once again on fire! I am once again so excited about what I am doing and the progress I am making that people can hear it even through my Facebook posts, and when I talk to them on the phone or in person they all tell me that my excitement is so contagious they have to be part of that.
For me – when I am part of Plexus, I am HOME!
And now… the new chapter in my journey begins: Plexus, Part 2
“I had no confidence, no belief in myself, no positive mindset. I was broken….”
I watched this talk Miranda gave last week several times, in tears. I know all too well the struggles I have had to overcome (much of which I have shared with you all but some of which are still too much to talk about) and I know how easy it is to put yourself last because of that.
I was lost for so very long. I grew up raised by my grandparents (whom I loved dearly) after my mother and father divorced and had no relationship with my mother after that and my relationship with my father has been shaky at best. I become a single mother at the age of 20. I finally met the man of my dreams, my soul mate and we got married but that did not end my struggles – we have not yet had our fairy tale ending. We lost a son in 2005, we miscarried a pregnancy in 2006, we were blessed with another son in 2007 who spent time in NICU after being born too early. My grandmother that raised me passed away from cancer in 2010 and my world was once again a place of hurt.We had times where we were apart as my husband dealt with things from his own past. There were time we separated over things in our marriage that caused too much pain to talk about. This left me to deal with much of my emotional turmoil alone, and only compounded the problem.
I took on this journey, much like Miranda, to find myself again.
Through it all in the last 10 years, I lost myself. I packed on the pounds in my depression and never took a good long look at myself until I landed in the emergency room thinking I was having a stroke at the age of 40.
You don’t have to wait to be perfect to help change people’s lives… it is in YOUR imperfections & your struggles that you can make the most impact not just in the lives of others, but in your own.
Take your first step HERE… let the healing begin while helping others do the same.
The strongest single factor in prosperity consciousness is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it. – Jerry Gillies
Self-esteem refers to how you think and feel about yourself. These are thoughts and feelings a person may have, may it be positive, negative, or mixed — about one’s self. The more positive these thoughts and feelings are, the higher your self-esteem will be and conversely the more negative these thoughts and feelings are, the lower your self-esteem will become.
Feeling good about yourself is important as it gives you a sense of control over your life. It can also help make a person feel satisfied in a relationship. With a positive self-identity, a person is able to set realistic expectations for oneself and pursue goals. Having a negative self-perception, on the other hand, results in a distorted view of one’s self, which leads to further lack of self-confidence, poor performance, and depression.
In recent times, low self-esteem has been one of the most popular and frequently invoked psychological explanations for behavioral and social problems. Taking their cue from social commentators and media opinion leaders, people have been willing to accept that a limited sense of self-worth lies behind just about every social and personal ill from drug abuse and delinquency to poverty and business failures. The result has been a huge market for self-help manuals and educational programs.
People who have a low self esteem rely heavily on their day-to-day performances. The positive external experience and encouragements help them to battle the negative feelings that they have about themselves. These negative feelings very often trouble the people with low self-esteem. In some situations, feelings of inadequacy torture those who do not have enough confidence about themselves and about what they can do.
There are many known ways to improve one’s self-esteem. To boost one’s confidence, it may be helpful to practice the following self-improvement techniques and strategies:
Rebutting the inner critic that keeps on sending self-defeating messages;
Practicing the art of self nurturing; and
Getting much-needed help and support from people who are close to you.
The first and the most important step to increase self esteem is to tell the inner voice to shut up. The inner voice might say negatively about you. In such a situation you must praise yourself. Rebutting the inner voice that keeps on criticizing you should be done on a regular basis. However this step is not enough to develop self-esteem.
The second step that one must initiate on a way to a healthy self-esteem is that a person should nurture himself. The most important part of this step is start treating yourself as a person who is worth while.
Seek out people who make you feel good. Remember that you get to choose your friends so why not choose people who think you’re great?
Moreover, both individual and group counseling can help improve self-esteem. Such therapy might include assertiveness training, communication skills, and learning to recognize and understand own emotional responses in relation to others. Therapy may also explore early and later experiences that contributed to your low self-esteem. Group therapy is particularly effective that it helps to foster trust and build relationships, and encourages a sense of belonging-components that are important for building self esteem.
Low and poor self-esteem is often the result of bad or a wrong treatment that was experienced in the past. Hence you must start regarding yourself as a worthy person. You must be able to challenge negative experiences in the past and you should start loving yourself. Try to change yourself and show to the outside world that you are valuable, competent, and a lovable person. Learn to develop high self-esteem and believe you can do it, you deserve it, and you will get it.
So the last few days have been pretty rough emotionally, to say the least. I was feeling beat up, drained and down right hurt.
I have always felt like my team member who have joined me on this journey are like my family. They may be all across the United States (and beyond) but we bond daily in our discussions and chatter.
So, out of the blue today I received a private message on Facebook from one of my team. She and I have never met in person but she sent me a message simply asking me if I was OK! She went on to say she could tell from a post I had made that I was not myself and, even though she and her family have been sick for a few days, she took time from her day and her own ailments just to check on me. As we chatted some about the events of the prior day, she then made a very profound statement. She said…
“don’t be discouraged by the negative stuff. I know from your posts you are a Christian….great way to know you are on the right track is when you are under attack. If not in the right direction Satan has no reason to bother you…keep on keeping on.”
THIS right here… this is what is means to have a “family team”. Not many companies have these relationship cultivated in them and most I have seen are very cut-throat… yet here I sat staring at these words from her on my screen… an amazing woman who I have not yet met in person. Among all of the many many reasons I love my career – this is yet another thing I can add to the ever growing list of my answer to “why do you love what you do so much?”
She uplifted me more than she realizes in that one simple gesture…